I don’t think people love me. They love versions of me I have spun for them, versions of me they have construed in their minds. The easy versions of me, the easy parts of me to love.
(via avvfvl)

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stay away from people who make you feel like you are hard to love

This is the most important thing I have ever read.

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LGBTQ* Reading List: Butch/Femme 101

Evolving in the 1940s, Butch and Femme are words with a lot of weight and power in queer culture. Ever wonder why some LGBTQ*-identified people get upset if straight women claim “Femme” as part of their identity? Want to join the (years-long) debate about whether a Butch/Femme relationship conforms to or subverts heteronormative gender roles? Not sure what the words really mean or where they came from in the first place? Brush up on your reading with these texts—and if they whet your appetite for knowledge, don’t forget to keep digging over at the Lesbrary or the Lesbian Herstory Archives.

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1. Butch is a Noun, by S. Bear Bergman.

2. Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg.

3. Dagger: On Butch Women, edited by Lily Burana and Roxxie Linea Due.

4. The Persistent Desire, A Femme-Butch Reader, edited by Joan Nestle.

5. Persistence: All Ways Butch and Femme, edited by Ivan E. Coyote and Zena Sharman. 

6. Odd Girls and Twilight Lovers: A History of Lesbian Life in Twentieth-Century America, by Lillian Faderman

7. Brazen Femme: Queering Femininity, edited by Chloe Brushwood Rose and Anna Camilleri.

8. Femmes of Power: Exploding Queer Femininities, edited by Del Lagrace Volcano and Ulrika Dahl

The less you respond to negative people the more peaceful your life will become.
Unknown (via girlmoss)

(Source: onlinecounsellingcollege)

nothing will ruin your 20s more than thinking you should have your life together already.
I need to write this on every wall of my room. (via thisyearsgirls)

(Source: cokeinaglassbottle)

My problem is that every night I have to fight the same battle against myself. And some nights I lose.
(68/365) by (KJ)

(Source: kjpoems)

I still remember the feeling I felt when I first started talking to you.
Unknown (via blackbruise)

(Source: loverichardperry)

Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize?
Marcus Aurelius  (via throwouttheclock)

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Anonymous asked:
why do black people use you in the wrong context? such is "you ugly" instead of "you're ugly" I know u guys can differentiate, it's a nuisance




you a bitch

It’s called copula deletion, or zero copula. Many languages and dialects, including Ancient Greek and Russian, delete the copula (the verb to be) when the context is obvious.

So an utterance like “you a bitch” in AAVE is not an example of a misused you, but an example of a sentence that deletes the copular verb (are), which is a perfectly valid thing to do in that dialect, just as deleting an /r/ after a vowel is a perfectly valid thing to do in an upper-class British dialect.

What’s more, it’s been shown that copula deletion occurs in AAVE exactly in those contexts where copula contraction occurs in so-called “Standard American English.” That is, the basic sentence “You are great” can become “You’re great” in SAE and “You great” in AAVE, but “I know who you are” cannot become “I know who you’re” in SAE, and according to reports, neither can you get “I know who you” in AAVE.

In other words, AAVE is a set of grammatical rules just as complex and systematic as SAE, and the widespread belief that it is not is nothing more than yet another manifestation of deeply internalized racism.